This page is dedicated to the memory of my love, James Sangster, his photography, some of our relationship stories, and brain cancer awareness as we traveled our journey! My prayer is that others, especially women, will be encouraged in their marriages, grief, healing and care giving. Updates will be made weekly.
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I lost the love of my life, my dear hubby July 21, 2012, after a 10 month battle with Glioblastoma (GBM) brain cancer. Everything is still so surreal to me and most days I actually think I am waking up from a horror of a dream, then I turn over and look at his obituary. I cannot really tell you how great my pain is in this loss, especially since my sister died less than a month before he did. I can only explain it as the feeling of one-half of your body going to sleep, being paralyzed or disappearing and you have to try and get used to life without it.
We were truly one unit and it was more like salt and pepper, white on rice; just a couple and the very best of friends. Sure we had our faults and separated a couple of times, but the love that we shared out weighed any circumstances and we always came together again. His belief was that God had joined us together and it was for life, until death separated us. I agreed, with some resistance along the way, of course. He was years my senior and we would not have had it any other way because he taught me more about life, marriage and how to be a wife; his wife. We were perfect for each other, and in the end, I served and took care of him until he gave his last breath.
He was a true soldier and a Vietnam Veteran. He wanted to continue to serve the people when he left the military, so he joined the Chicago Police department. He served faithfully for over 20 years until he retired in February 2011, 1 day after my 40th birthday (happy birthday to me huh?). He adjusted well and we got a studio where he focused on his passion for photography and I did my passion of helping to empower women and girls in the community. 8 months into his retirement and 5 days into us rededicating ourselves to our marriage and loving each other for life, he was diagnosed with brain cancer.
My tears haven’t stopped falling yet. While I still have to serve in the community, interact with people and live life, it is a second-by-second endeavor because we were stuck to each other like glue. We had daily routines and it has been challenging adjusting without him…but GOD! My true protector is now gone, but I firmly believe he is my angel now watching over me, along with God. Enjoy what I will share and if you are blessed in any way, please share your testimony with me so I can tell others because we are connected in so many ways and I thank God for you all.